Meet Jordan. She has two children; her youngest is a year old. A year ago, Jordan traded in her uterus to save her daughter’s life. By losing her uterus, she has lost her potential and her dream of having more children, and she felt that she had lost a friend. She felt that she had lost the part of her that made her a whole woman.
She is very shy with her belly and has hated it in the past. She doesn’t look at herself in the mirror or think about her scar. She doesn’t wear a two-piece swimsuit because she is fighting herself. She has suffered through a debilitating and deep depression caused by her highly medicalized birth experience.
But last night she hosted a party for her best friends who have all unfailingly supported her through her traumatic birth, her time in the hospital and her healing after. I was invited to join them. She was ready to start thinking more positively about herself, and decided that a henna blessing was in order. She told me about the design she had in her head, "a placenta growing into a tree", and we came up with this design uniquely for her.
Jordan hadn’t let anyone this close to her belly in a long time, but she pulled up her shirt for me and let me touch her skin. I was very aware of the privileged position I had been gifted with – here I was, more of less a stranger to her, getting intimately close to the part of her body she’s been struggling with for so long. Every time my henna cone crossed over her silver scar, she drew a deep breath and let out a big sigh. Clear it all out, mama.
Doula, Sisterhood Wellness Collective, Toronto
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