- Condoms (internal or external): What’s so sexy about a condom? The fact that you can have all the sex you want, avoid pregnancy, avoid STIs, and keep going! Condoms allow you the peace of mind needed to relax enough to actually enjoy what you’re doing in the moment. The big complaint is that they’re uncomfortable. Easy solution: I was recently talking to one mother who encouraged her son, from a very young age, to start practicing putting on a condom and masturbating with it on so he could learn how to have fun with them. That way, when the time did come for him to use a condom with a partner, he wouldn’t feel a) clumsy trying to figure out how it works, and b) he’d already know how good sex feels with a condom on!
- Toys & Masturbation: Sex toys and masturbation is the safest sex a person can have. No chance of pregnancy. No chance of STIs or STVs (as long as you don’t share them), and wicked amounts of fun. I’ve never understood why sex toys are not more readily available for people under 18. Not to mention, it’s a wonderful way for someone to explore their sexuality on their own terms, in their own time, by themselves (though they are just as fun and safe when used in good company)! You don’t need toys to masturbate but they can be a great way to explore a variety of sex practices without a partner (or with a partner!). Sex shops do require that you are 18yrs of age or older to enter, but many drug stores have started to carry small vibrating rings and little pocket rockets. Be sure to get the 101 on safe sex toy use, before talking to your kids (I recommend checking out comeasyourare.com)
- Talking about Sex: Yes, I do mean taking the time to educate your children on safe sex practices, but I also mean encouraging your children to talk to their prospective sex partners before they decide to have sex. I’ve often found, especially as a young person, that just talking about sex was enough to drive me crazy with excitement, so much so I didn’t even feel the need to act on it! Just because you’re talking about it, doesn’t mean you need to do it. And if you do decide to act on your plans, you’ve talked them out ahead of time, how awesome is that?
 Trenholm C, et al., Impacts of Four Title V, Section 510 Abstinence Education Programs Final Report. Princeton, NJ: Mathematic Policy Research; submitted to U.S. Dept. Health & Human Services, Assistant Secretary for Planning and Evaluation, 2007.
Tynan Rhea graduated from the University of Waterloo with a Joint Honours Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Sexuality, Marriage, & Family. Tynan now works in Toronto as a Doula and Sexual & Reproductive Health Consultant with the Sisterhood Wellness Collective (SisterhoodWellness.com) specializing in sexuality throughout pregnancy.
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