Our first couple of posts will just be an introduction to us, what SWC is all about, and how we came to be here.
Let’s start small first - My name is Kyla. I live in Toronto with my partner, Jim, and my two young daughters Blaze and Cordelia. We also have three cats. It’s a full house right now.
My daughters are, at the time I write this, 3 years and 2 years old. We were lucky to have our perfect birth experiences – both of my girls were born at home after easy pregnancies. We had buddied up with an amazing team of Midwives from Kensington Midwives and I got to see what an empowering and beautiful thing birth could be. For us, it was exactly the experience we wanted. My first birth left such an impact on me that I thought about it every day, without fail, for a solid six months.
Six weeks after Cordelia was born we were at our discharge appointment with my midwife, and I asked her a few questions about the work that she did. She looked at me out of the corner or her eye with a sly smile and said “why, are you thinking of becoming a midwife?” at that point, I realized that yes, I was. The thought wouldn’t leave my head.
Thinking realistically, I couldn’t go to school full time with a six-week old baby. And as I quickly became pregnant again, my plans were waylaid again. But by this time, I had learned a bit more about doulas, and I liked the look of that too. I looked up the certification process, sent off for a certification package and jumped right in.
I have been a doula for a year and a half. Each birth brings something new to learn. My job is to ensure that mamas get the best birth that they can. Her best birth, not anybody else’s, not mine. My job is to ensure that she comes out of her labour and birth with no regrets.
I met Sondra at a workshop and we hit it off immediately – a kindred spirit. I pulled her aside at the end of the workshop and asked if she had a backup partner, because the backup I had been working with before was going back to school full time and I would be on my own again. She didn’t, and we set a date to meet and feel each other out to see if we would be a good match.
As we bonded over tea, I broached the subject of forming a collective with her and she lit up. In a collective, we work in rotation and our clients get two doulas, a primary and a secondary, so they have two people instead of one to care for them. We were a good fit because our underlying beliefs were similar - we both believed that mothers and families need to be cared for not just during the birth and the two weeks afterwards, but they need to have a place to come to be cared for whenever they need it, month after month. It’s not just all about the birth, after all.
Our goal is to make Sisterhood Wellness your one stop shop for fertility, pre and post natal services, counseling and parenting support. At our core we believe that mothers deserve to be supported in the way they desire. That pregnancy and postpartum are times for a woman's body to be honoured and celebrated.
Doula, Sisterhood Wellness Collective, Toronto