My path to becoming doula started from pain and desperation. That is hard to admit. I was burnt out in my job, desperately trying to get pregnant and seeking anything that could help. Social media lead me to a fellow birth professional and instructor, and in turn led me to Doula Training Canada. I needed hope. Hope that life could be different, that I could love what I did again, that I could be connected to pregnancy and birth even if I could never bring a child onto the planet through my body.
That weekend was both difficult and inspiring. Sitting in a room, some women with babes and some without, talking birth. I did not know a lot. I realized that weekend a passion that I had been missing for a long time. I was absorbed in learning and excited to start this new path. I dove in. Signed up for any course I could afford, bought all the required readings and started in. In 6 months I had completed all my written requirements and had 2 births scheduled. I signed up to support teen moms through Jessie’s Centre. I was on a mission.
I attended many more births, holding on to the ideal but there was a voice that kept telling me there is no way you could make a living at this. It stalled me. I started to question my validity as a birth professional, the viability of this as a career, and I was drowning in personal pity.
Then, what feels like a miracle happened. I got pregnant. Life got real. Do I return to a job that leaves me depleted or do I dive into something that has the potential to feed my soul and offer me the time to be with my child. More barriers to work through, more junk, but then it clicked. I needed to shed my skin, that happened literally and emotionally for me. Now was the time. Jump in or let go.
This often happens on route to certification. Life gets in the way. Working as a doula is not an easy path. Life on call, hustling to build your business. It can be bumpy. It definitely was for me. So why Doula?
Passion is only part of the process. If you love birth and all things baby then that is a great start. This work is rewarding and filled with both those things. You will walk away from most births glowing with excitement, but let’s get real.
* I Doula because I am passionate but also want to work hard
* I Doula because I love babies but also want to help create a supportive birth environment for the birthing person
* I Doula because I wanted to work for myself and knew I had to hustle to get my business off the ground or connect with others who already have
* I Doula because I want to support birthing women and families in their journey and I know that sometimes it will be difficult.
* I Doula because I always want to learn and grow and know that diving in will fills you up in ways you never expected.
These are just some of the reasons I Doula. I am honoured you ask me to doula with you.
- Sondra, Counselor and full-spectrum Doula at Sisterhood Wellness Collective